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Introduction: Trusting the Inner Yes

In a world saturated with external noise, algorithms, advice columns, diagnoses, protocols, and the incessant hum of other people’s expectations, intuition remains one of the most radical tools of reclamation. It is not woo-woo. It is not indulgence. It is not guesswork. Intuition is body-wisdom. It is soul-direction. It is the living compass buried beneath trauma, domestication, and shame. And when you learn to trust it—not just occasionally, but as the primary guide, it can reshape your health, your relationships, your decisions, your sovereignty, your sexuality, and your freedom.

For those of us who have walked through abuse, betrayal, disempowerment, or chronic illness, the act of reclaiming our intuitive voice is not merely healing; it is revolutionary.

What Is Intuition?

Let’s define it plainly: intuition is the deep, often wordless knowing that arises from within without requiring rational proof. It is the body’s language of yes and no. It is the energetic signal, the internal tug, the goosebump confirmation, the wave of nausea, the inexplicable pull. It lives in the belly, the spine, the throat, the breath, and even the anus; yes, truly. (More on that later.)

Unlike instinct, which is reactive and animal-based, or logic, which is calculated and cerebral, intuition arises from the integration of embodiment, emotion, energy, and experience, often outside the realm of linear thought.

Why We Lose It

Most people, especially women, empaths, and trauma survivors, are born highly intuitive. But over time, we are trained to ignore it.

• We are taught to obey rules, not feelings.
• We are told to trust authority instead of our own body.
• We are shamed for “overreacting,” “being too sensitive,” or “reading too much into things.”
• We’re taught to outsource our decisions to doctors, preachers, gurus, influencers, and politicians.

In short, we’re domesticated out of our knowing.

And for those of us who live outside societal norms, who live barefoot, naturist, sexually liberated, and sovereign, reclaiming intuition isn’t just personal healing. It’s defiance. It’s survival. It’s freedom.

Intuition and Self-Healing

Your body already knows how to heal.

Your cells respond to resonance. Your nervous system listens to vibration. Your tissues hold memory. Your breath can reorganize trauma. And your womb, your gut, your skin, your spine, they all speak. The body whispers long before it screams.

Here’s what intuition looks like in the context of healing:

• Feeling a pull toward a specific food or supplement even if it’s not “on protocol.”
• Choosing to walk away from a therapist who checks all the boxes but leaves your body tense.
• Trusting your urge to rest when you’ve been taught to push.
• Following a weird craving, dance, scream, or breath pattern that inexplicably relieves your pain.
• Letting pleasure, not just performance, guide your healing rituals.

Healing doesn’t always look like taking action. Sometimes, it’s about listening. Sometimes, it’s about waiting. Sometimes, it’s about moving your body the way it wants to be moved, not how you think you should stretch or exercise. Your intuition knows the difference.

Somatic Clarity

So many people stay stuck in cycles of dis-ease because they try to fix a body they haven’t yet learned to listen to. Intuition is the missing link in most healing models; especially those that rely too heavily on diagnostics and ignore energetic congruence.

When I help clients tap into their intuitive bodies, we often uncover the real wound beneath the symptom: unspoken grief, unfelt rage, sexual suppression, disconnection from their own erotic truth. And when that wound is acknowledged, sometimes through words, but often through sound, movement, or orgasm, healing begins to move on its own.

Intuition and Decision-Making

We’ve been taught to make decisions with spreadsheets, pros-and-cons lists, and societal optics. But the truth is: Your clearest decisions are felt, not calculated.

Here’s how intuition speaks during decision-making:

• A subtle tightening in the chest that says “no,” even when the opportunity looks great.
• A full-body exhale that says “yes,” even when the path ahead is uncertain.
• A spontaneous image, dream, or memory that clarifies what your conscious mind can’t yet grasp.
• A visceral bodily sensation, tingling, opening, fluttering, that occurs when you’re aligned with truth.

The Body as Oracle

The more attuned you are to your body’s signals, the faster and more accurately you can navigate:

• Relationships (Is this connection nourishing or depleting?)
• Health choices (Is this practitioner really aligned with my healing?)
• Life transitions (Should I leave this job, home, habit, or pattern?)
• Erotic decisions (Does this experience honor my desire and safety?)

Some of the biggest and best decisions of my life; leaving my past life, embracing my sexual truth, living as a barefoot naturist, devoting myself to sovereignty, writing without censorship, made no sense on paper. But my body knew. And every single one of those choices unlocked deeper layers of freedom, truth, and healing that logic could never have predicted.

Rebuilding Trust in Your Intuition

If you’ve been taught to distrust yourself, here’s how to reconnect:

1. Start Small

Notice how your body responds to small decisions, like what to eat or which road to take. Pay attention to how “yes” and “no” feel somatically.

2. Track Sensations

Keep a journal of intuitive hits; moments when your body sensed something before your mind could explain it. Validate those moments.

3. Practice Stillness

Silence and solitude create space for inner knowing to arise. This is especially true in nature, in nudity, or in erotic self-communion.

4. Release the Need to Explain

You don’t need to justify your knowing. “Because I feel it” is enough.

5. Honor Pleasure as a Compass

Desire isn’t indulgence. It’s divine direction. Sacred erotic energy is often your clearest signal of resonance. If it turns you on, awakens you, or expands your breath; it’s likely aligned.

Intuition in Erotic Healing

Let’s be honest, many of our deepest wounds live in the body’s most intimate places. And so do our deepest truths.

Erotic energy and intuitive energy are linked. When you are sexually awakened, your intuition gets louder. When you are intuitively embodied, your sexuality becomes sacred.

For me, this shows up as the undeniable knowing of who I serve, how I worship, how I heal, and what opens me to divinity. My whole body transmits and receives truth. That is not metaphor. That is reality. My sacred work as a sexologist, is intuitive.

Final Thoughts: Your Intuition Is the Healer

You don’t need to be psychic to be intuitive.

You don’t need permission to follow your knowing.

You don’t need a certificate to trust your gut.

Your intuition is the healer. It’s not separate from your soul. It’s the bridge between your body and your truth. And the more you honor it, the more it will speak; louder, clearer, and with undeniable precision.

And if someone doesn’t understand your knowing? Let them be confused. You don’t owe your truth to anyone who demands it come in a palatable, rational, explainable form.

You owe it to yourself to follow it anyway.

Susie Spades, PhD